*belated post*
So in the spirit of my state of boredom at Kini Country Guest Inn,
I decided to try and connect to the internet for the millionth time and what do
you know, it worked!!! I gladly began my frequent rounds of blog reading,
enjoying this favorite past time. As I got to 'bellanaija' I quickly skipped to
the relationship section (actually that’s the only section on 'bellanaija' that
interests me, and Chef Fregz corner too) where I unfortunately stumbled on yet
another story (the third in this month of love if I might add) where some young
Nigerian lady dating an older guy wants everyone to feel bad for supposedly
looking down on them.
You can catch up here: http://www.bellanaija.com/2013/02/19/bn-prose-my-boyfriend-i-by-arit-okpo/
Hmm!!
The first one I saw was on ‘the naked convos’ I decided to ignore
and mind my business. The second time I simply shook my head and moved on again
but this time, just this time, I have been pushed over the edge and forced to
speak. LOL
On a serious note, I ll like us to consider these:
1. I rarely
see people who are happy and confident about what they are doing go around
shouting “see me, I am confident” yet we see them. If you have to sing it, then
you are suspect. Stop trying to rationalize. If you have to justify your actions, then something definitely smells 'fishy'!
2. What you
get in a relationship that makes your world go round may not be what I need in
my relationship to make my world go round. And I refer to this section:
"One day, I went to do my hair and i was delayed. I rushed home thinking he would be upset at me; i walked in to see that he was putting a meal together; he said he knew that i would be tired. i was stunned! Would your boyfriend do that? Does he rub your back when you have cramps and take time to feed you chicken soup? Does he take the time to teach you the difference between a normal fork and a dessert fork? Does your boyfriend even know that there is a difference? Does he advise you on how to invest your money? Has your boyfriend ever traveled to your village to learn about your history?"
(I don't know why a boyfriend from the same village as I needs to go to my village to learn my history) I am not even sure people consider that in their criteria.That he rubs your back and feeds you chicken soup may mean nada to someone else. Different strokes for different folks. Other people may not care about all that stuff, other people may just want simpler things in life and be content with the guy that gives her just that, black, white, old or young.
I don’t have a problem with young girls dating older men, black
girl dating white boy, young black chics dating old and close to their grave white
men, (forgive my political incorrect words, I am Nigerian) but please drop the lame excuses, not sll Nigerian men are bums. Sure you have been in and heard of really shitty relationships but
I hope you do realized that there are at least 60 million young men in Nigeria.
In summary
1.
1 If you are an aristo, keep it up.
2.
2 If you are not an aristo but just dating an older
guy, still keep it up.
3.
3 But if you are one who feels shitty enough about the guy
you are with to write a sermon defending the relationship, trying to get us to
see reasons with you and in the process convince us that others are not getting
or can’t get what have and therefore are jealous then, you need to STOP.
Please feel free to date whoever you need/want to, it's your life after all. Did I mention that after reading all the comments and ROTFLMAO I
felt much better and continued my blog hopping? (^_^)……… c’est la vie!
