CbB in the making........(1)

As much as I love to travel and truly enjoy working hard, I have missed my kitchen badly! Away for 6 weeks between February and March and again 2 weeks in April, I am surely glad to be back to base! In between this time, I catered for a mini-party on 25^th February, 2013. Yippeeeee! So I definitely got to have some fun in-between all that travel. It was more of a dinner party for 20 guests (on a Monday evening!!!).

Based on discussions with the host as regards the kind of guests being invited and their ‘average taste’ we came up with a menu.

I’ll let the pictures tell the story……

Asun, Peruvian Rice, Curried chicken and Pepper Sauce

It's a first please be fair!!!!! 

Needless to say, it was a success by all means! And so the birthing process for 'Catered by Bella' begins.......

Watch this space! 

Excuses! Excuses!! Excuse me!!!

*belated post* 

So in the spirit of my state of boredom at Kini Country Guest Inn, I decided to try and connect to the internet for the millionth time and what do you know, it worked!!! I gladly began my frequent rounds of blog reading, enjoying this favorite past time. As I got to 'bellanaija' I quickly skipped to the relationship section (actually that’s the only section on 'bellanaija' that interests me, and Chef Fregz corner too) where I unfortunately stumbled on yet another story (the third in this month of love if I might add) where some young Nigerian lady dating an older guy wants everyone to feel bad for supposedly looking down on them.

You can catch up here: http://www.bellanaija.com/2013/02/19/bn-prose-my-boyfriend-i-by-arit-okpo/

Hmm!!

The first one I saw was on ‘the naked convos’ I decided to ignore and mind my business. The second time I simply shook my head and moved on again but this time, just this time, I have been pushed over the edge and forced to speak. LOL

On a serious note, I ll like us to consider these:

1.     I rarely see people who are happy and confident about what they are doing go around shouting “see me, I am confident” yet we see them. If you have to sing it, then you are suspect. Stop trying to rationalize. If you have to justify your actions, then something definitely smells 'fishy'!

2.     What you get in a relationship that makes your world go round may not be what I need in my relationship to make my world go round. And I refer to this section:

"One day, I went to do my hair and i was delayed. I rushed home thinking he would be upset at me; i walked in to see that he was putting a meal together; he said he knew that i would be tired. i was stunned! Would your boyfriend do that? Does he rub your back when you have cramps and take time to feed you chicken soup? Does he take the time to teach you the difference between a normal fork and a dessert fork? Does your boyfriend even know that there is a difference? Does he advise you on how to invest your money? Has your boyfriend ever traveled to your village to learn about your history?"

(I don't know why a boyfriend from the same village as I needs to go to my village to learn my history) I am not even sure people consider that in their criteria.That he rubs your back and feeds you chicken soup may mean nada to someone else. Different strokes for different folks. Other people may not care about all that stuff, other people may just want simpler things in life and be content with the guy that gives her just that, black, white, old or young. 

I don’t have a problem with young girls dating older men, black girl dating white boy, young black chics dating old and close to their grave white men, (forgive my political incorrect words, I am Nigerian) but please drop the lame excuses, not sll Nigerian men are bums. Sure you have been in and heard of really shitty relationships but I hope you do realized that there are at least 60 million young men in Nigeria.

In summary

1.     1   If you are an aristo, keep it up.

2.     2   If you are not an aristo but just dating an older guy, still keep it up.

3.     3  But if you are one who feels shitty enough about the guy you are with to write a sermon defending the relationship, trying to get us to see reasons with you and in the process convince us that others are not getting or can’t get what have and therefore are jealous then, you need to STOP.

Please feel free to date whoever you need/want to, it's your life after all. Did I mention that after reading all the comments and ROTFLMAO I felt much better and continued my blog hopping? (^_^)……… c’est la vie!

Bellasapiosexual.........no??

Now What? 

So a friend of mine claims that he is sapiosexual!!! And I say, 'wash joo!' to that. 

Before I pretend I have always known or heard this word, I must confess that seeing the word for the first time today sent me running to the very famous 'Google' for help, and this is what I found ---> 

Sapiosexual: A behavior of becoming attracted to or aroused by intelligence and its use or a person who is sexually attracted to intelligent people

Errrr…….. My point is that I am not too sure I believe a guy can be simply sapiosexual, based on this definition, as guyz are first and foremost, ‘visual beings’. Before your intelligence shines out to them, your looks must first attract them. I don’t think a guy would be attracted to an unattractive but intelligent lady. Therefore the word shouldn’t be  used by guyz! 

Me thinks we need a word that incorporates beauty and intelligence.

Fixer that I am *solemn face* I'm here to rescue the situation. 

Here is my suggestion: since ‘sapio’ is of Italian origin meaning or relating to wise or sensible (latin origin from sapien also means wise) , and ‘bella’ is used to describe a beautiful lady, I’d say something like ‘bellasapiosexual'. So we can now have

Bellasapiosexual: A behavior of becoming attracted to or aroused by a fine blend of beauty and intelligence or a person who is sexually attracted to intelligent-cum-beautiful people.

*dusts hands*

Yeah! It’s a mouthful but definitely more appropriate. (and it has bella in it!! :p) Maybe, just maybe someday in the future this word will be accepted and adopted by many and find itself in the urban dictionary and I will be credited for this spell of wisdom. But till then.......

Hasta la vista!!!  

Why not?......Yes(iCan)!

According to Rev. James Martin S.J (a catholic priest and author of The Jesuit Guide to (Almost) everything), there are seven things one ought to say frequently (why not):

Thank you...................................
  I love you................................
    Thank you, God.....................
      I'm so happy for you!...........
        Forgive me...................
          Why not?.................
             Yes (iCan)...........

I can proudly say I v been doing well with the first five but not so good with my 'why not' and 'yes(iCan)'. So from now (note that 'now' is no exact time), i choose to say 'Why not?' and 'Yes(iCan)!'.

So I ll bring you anything....Catered by Bella.... 

By definition, 'catered' is to provide with what is needed or required. So I ll simply be catering for whatever is needed or required-food n others. 

Disclaimer: I swear that this is not only about food! no? *sighs deeply* I ll try to make it not just about food but pretty much every and any thing Catered by Bella.